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Purgatory revisited  

By Rev. Ron Rolheiser, OMI   
The Tidings...11-14-03
 



What's purgatory?


Purgatory isn't a place, it's an experience, that of enduring a necessary, purifying pain that readies us for the full joy of heaven. 

What does this pain consist in and why is it necessary?

The pain of purgatory is two things: 

First, it's the pain of being unconditionally embraced by selflessness while we are still selfish, the pain of being enfolded by goodness while we are still sinful. We already experience this, partially, in our daily lives where, as we know, few experiences are as humbling, painful and purifying as the experience of being undeservedly loved and gratuitously forgiven. Love purifies, that's why love hurts.

But there's a second pain that makes for purgatory. Purgatory is also the pain of letting go of the every-day securities, attachments and pleasures of this life. Purgatory is the pain of letting go of this life in order to live in the next. That's not an abstract concept. 

We see it in those facing death. The pain in dying is more about saying good-bye to this world and our loved ones than it is about facing the unknown on the other side. It's hard to die because it's hard to shake a hand and say good-bye for the last time to a loved one, a loved home, a cherished routine, a healthy body. Letting go like this isn't like purgatory, it is purgatory.

Imagine dying a sudden death, by an accident or heart attack. One minute you're alive, tangibly connected to family, friends, a home, a routine, a healthy body, plans for a future, an anticipated dinner that evening, your favorite sports team on a wonderful playoff run. Wham! Death! 

The next minute you're on the other side. In heaven, yes ... but, in one instant, stripped of everything you've drawn your life from. You're in God's arms, secure, loved, forgiven, but with a lot of suddenly severed attachments and unfinished business on earth. You're living in the eternal but it's been quite a jolt exiting the natural. Full ecstasy doesn't come instantly, even when it's offered unconditionally. 

The pain of purgatory is the pain of the Ascension, the pain of standing where Mary of Magdala stood on the morning of the Resurrection and hearing: "Do not cling to what was! Eternal life is infinitely richer, but it's not your old life!" Letting go of this world with its joys, its beauties and its wonderfully solid flesh is the pain of purgatory.

And our prayers for our deceased loved ones need to reflect that. More immediately after their deaths, they still want and need our former contact. Slowly, though, as time passes, our prayers must more and more invite the ascension and must work at freeing both them and us from how we once had each other ("Do not cling! Let the old ascend!"). 

Eventually our prayers must give our loved ones permission to be free from how things used to be with us and the world, so that they can enter fully into that final ecstasy of love which, though dimly glimpsed in faith, is beyond our imaginings and which we too will one day enter, though only after having --- through purgative pain --- ourselves let go of the marvels of earthly, natural life, with all its wonderful tangible solidity.

Oblate of Mary Immaculate Father Ronald Rolheiser
 is a specialist in the field of spirituality and systematic theology.